A father has lost ten stone in one year to become a ‘better father’ after lacking the energy to put his chidren to bed, but his wife has admitted that his new physique initially put a strain on their relationship.
The 6ft manufacturing engineer was severely obese at his largest size and had a BMI of 45.5, while between 18.5 and 24.9 is considered to be an ideal BMI for adults.
During lockdown, Adam took up running and joined WW, formerly known as Weight Watchers, and lost six stone in the first five months, slimming down to 13st 7lbs after only one year.
But his wife Nicola admitted that Adam’s incredible new look unexpectedly put pressure on their marriage and the couple ‘lost each other’ for a time because she struggled with the ‘attention’ Adam got from other women.
She explained: ‘Whereas before he used to ask me if clothes looked OK on him before we went somewhere, now I felt like he didn’t need me anymore.
Adam Newman, 34, from Long Eaton, Derbyshire, (pictured) lost ten stone in one year to be a ‘better father’ as he said he did not have the energy to put his children to bed due to his size
‘We used to regularly have takeaways and watch a film together, but we weren’t doing that any more either; it felt like things had changed.
‘And I did struggle with attention from other women. He was on this Connect app, which was 80 per cent women, and he’d be getting lots of messages and sharing his hints and tips.
‘There was nothing going on, but given how good he looks and he’s talking to all these women, it did take me a while to get my head around that.’
Adam added: ‘As I went through this journey, I changed as a person – and that meant we weren’t connecting as a couple.
The father weighed almost 24-stone at his heaviest weight in February last year but lost weight amid the Covid-19 lockdown, hitting his lightest size of 13st 7lbs after one year (above)
‘People might think losing weight is the hard bit, but it does have a wider impact on your life than just your health.’
But in January, the couple sat down and voiced their concerns, quickly closing the gap between them.
Nicola said: ‘I see now that I’m the one he loves, I’m the one he’s married to – he just wants to help these other people out with their weight loss.
‘Now we’re stronger than we’ve ever been as a couple.’
As well as strengthening his marriager, Adam says that losing weight has also made him a ‘better father’.
‘Now I’ve got the energy to do things with my kids, from play-fighting to things as simple as putting them to bed,’ Adam explained.
‘It’s made me realise how bad I was before – I’m definitely a better father and husband now.’
His wife, stay-at-home mother Nicola, 34, was stunned by his transformation after his weight put a ‘strain’ on their marriage because he had no ‘energy’ to play with their sons Blake and Mason, five, and her daughter from a past relationship.
She explained: ‘I love him for who he is rather than what he looks like. Even though he looks damn good now, I’ve fancied him whatever size he was.
‘But when his health began to become a problem, I wanted him to lose weight so he could still be there for me and the kids.
Adam has always struggled with his weight and hit 20-stone at the age of 18 and began gaining weight before his wedding in August 2014 (pictured with his wife Nicola on wedding day)
Adam had always struggled with his weight after being one of the largest children in secondary school and hitting 20-stone at the age of 18.
Nicola, who was in his year group at school, was stunned when she bumped into him nine years later on a night out in Long Eaton in 2012 when Adam weighed 15st 8lbs after taking up boxing at age 20.
She recalled: ‘He was a lot thinner than he was at school – it was a real ‘wow’ moment.’
He asked her out on a date just days later and within six months he proposed to her dressed as Batman on a fancy dress night out for her 26th birthday in January 2013.
Nicola, who was dressed as Superwoman at the time, recalled: ‘At first I didn’t realise what he was saying – when it sank in I was shocked, but of course I said yes. How could I say no to him in that Batman costume?’
Adam had to stop boxing after getting a detached retina during his first amateur fight and his weight began to creep up before their wedding in August 2014, and he was left feeling stressed about fitting into his suit.
Nicola, who gave birth to their first son Blake months before the wedding, said: ‘Adam was about 17st at this point and it was upsetting seeing him beating himself up about it.
‘I thought he looked great, and I tried to be supportive – but it was still difficult.’
He admitted he is a better father to his sons Blake and Mason and a ‘better’ husband since his weight loss, as he previously became low and depressed about his size
Adam put on weight due to bad eating habits and working exhausting 12-hour night shifts, but joined WW, formerly known as Weight Watchers, after seeing his brother’s success
By 2015, their second son Mason had arrived and Adam started putting on weight and adopting bad eating habits due to his exhausting 12-hour night shifts while working as a machine operator.
He guzzled bottles of Pepsi and ate at least three takeaways a week, such as pizzas, kebabs and Chinese, before putting on five stone across 2018, weighing 22st by the beginning of 2019.
Adam became exhausted and depressed about his weight, even becoming too self-conscious to take his children to school and could not muster the energy to put them to bed.
His health also began to suffer as his high blood pressure meant that he had constant migraines, frequent nose bleeds and terrible back pain.
Nicola said: ‘It was horrible seeing him like that; he was so sensitive about his weight that I had to bring it up in subtle ways.
‘It did put a strain on our relationship, because he was at his lowest mental point and I had to do everything around the house and with the kids because he had no energy.
‘He’d get in from work, crash on the sofa and spend the whole evening there recovering from the day until he had to go to work again.
‘We’d have arguments about food: I’d be cooking dinner and he would make himself something to eat beforehand because he couldn’t wait.’
In September 2019, they went on their annual holiday to Cornwall and he had to wear a rash vest to face getting in the swimming pool, which was when he decided enough was enough.
His wife Nicola, 34, admitted his weight put a ‘strain’ on their marriage as he had no ‘energy’ to play with their sons Blake and Mason, five, and her daughter from a past relationship
Nicola (pictured with Adam before his weight loss) had put on weight after guzzling bottles of Pepsi and eating at least three takeaways a week, such as pizzas, kebabs and Chinese
After seeing his brother’s success with WW, he decided to give it a go in February 2020, having already tried and failed with many other diets – including the high-fat keto diet and the meat-based caveman diet.
‘Honestly, I thought it would probably last a month and he would be back off it – of course I didn’t tell him that,’ Nicola laughed.
‘But I was pleasantly surprised.’
Adam lost a staggering nine pounds in the first five days, which spurred him on to keep following WW’s meal plans.
During the first lockdown, he was furloughed for a few weeks and began walking five or six miles each day, before taking up jogging and boxing as well.
In September 2020, the family returned to Cornwall for their annual holiday and quickly saw the difference that Adam’s weight loss had made.
The father smashed his first weight target of 15st 4lbs and had the energy to take the kids to the beach and play rugby with them for the first time in years – and he had no hang-ups about taking his top off to get in the pool.
Nicola said: ‘The weight just flew off, and he looked incredible. You could see the change in him as a person as well – he was so much more confident and instead of dreading photos he was smiling and posing for them.’
Adam’s diet before and after his weight loss
Breakfast: Four slices of white bread and butter
Snacks: Chocolate biscuits, multipacks of crisps, doughnuts.
Lunch: Three cheese sandwiches
Dinner: Burger and chips followed by biscuits and cakes
Breakfast: Overnight oats
Lunch: Halloumi and salad wrap
Dinner: WW Sloppy Joe Burger with salad and potato wedges
Adam, who has swapped his 5XL shirts for a M, now trains with his son Mason, five, (pictured) who uses a set of wooden barbells that his grandfather made him
Nicola (pictured with Adam before his weight loss) admitted she initially found his weight loss difficult due to the attention he got from other women, but they are now ‘closer than ever’
Adam, who has swapped his 5XL shirts for a M, is now focusing on hitting fitness goals rather than concentrating on his weight on the scale, having completed his first marathon-length run this March.
His son Mason, five, now ‘trains’ with Adam using a set of wooden barbells that his grandfather made him and Nicola has now embarked on her own health journey.
She said: ‘We do a Les Mills workout on TV on a Friday night when the kids are in bed.
‘It’s good to know we’re not putting rubbish food in our bodies any more and we’re doing something active together rather than just sitting in front of the TV.
‘I never expected to enjoy it but it’s bringing us closer together. We’ve found each other again.’