“I was in bed for three days, I thought I had Covid, but I didn’t,” she told CNN. “I just was done. Mentally, physically, I was just exhausted.”
She’d already put her career on hold for much of 2020 to supervise 9-year-old Enzo’s remote learning and to take care of Sophia, 4, and it was all taking a toll.
“It’s just not humanly possible to do a full-time job and do all the things on top of that — feed the kids and constant interruptions, especially with the toddler.”
Now, however, things are finally looking up for Limongi, a writer and consultant based in New York City.
Enzo is back in school full time, five days a week, and Sophia’s daycare has reopened full-time as well, and that has created space for other things.
“I was able to take on a project, which was exciting,” Limongi said. “I think it’s a game-changer for my mental health. It helps, too, to have that routine, to not have to juggle that with my spouse.”
The federal government had working moms like Limongi in mind when developing its nearly $2 trillion rescue plan.
She says that “$360 a month for a child under six, which is what Sophia is, it pays a week of childcare or $360 worth of groceries.”
Kristin Rowe-Finkbeiner, co-founder and CEO of the advocacy group MomsRising, says the rescue plan is a much needed step in the right direction.
“Just like we need to build bridges to be able to drive to work, we need to build a childcare infrastructure and care infrastructure so parents can go to work, children can thrive and childcare professionals can be paid living wages. It’s definitely time for a change,” she said.
Long wait ahead
Many moms have yet to experience that change.
Now, her children are still doing remote learning, which means she is still unable to work.
The children’s medical conditions mean they likely won’t return to school until they are vaccinated against Covid-19, so Dodd probably has a long wait ahead of her.
“That’s the heaviness of heart that I’m dealing with right now — I don’t think I’m going to have the answers I need in terms of vaccination to accept any kind of long-term opportunity,” she said.
She has picked up temporary work here and there but fears that the longer she stays out of the workplace, the harder it will be to pick back up where she left off.
“I would love to see women coming back to work and getting interview questions like, ‘What did you learn during the pandemic’ rather than ‘Why is there a two-year gap in your resume?'”
Rowe-Finkbeiner of MomsRising says her group and others are considering ways to protect and help women earn what they are due when they get back to work.
“We’re looking at right now helping to move the Paycheck Fairness Act through Congress. This makes sure that you can’t have a double standard using your prior pay to set your current pay,” she said. “Instead, what you look at is how qualified are you, what’s on your resume. What’s your job and education experience?”
Limongi says she could never envision leaving the workforce but others may have no choice.
“I worry that so many women are in that position where they have to leave a job they love,” she said.
Dodd can describe what that’s like.
“A lot of what I do in terms of teaching and preaching, I describe it as it feels like breathing, and not being able to live into those parts of myself feels like just having to take really shallow breaths all the time,” she said. “I can do it, but I miss being able to breathe in the air of what I know I’m called to do in the world.”