By Jared Atchison, the co-founder of WPForms, a drag-and-drop form builder for WordPress that’s used on over 4,000,000 websites.
How often do you use positive self-talk to boost your self-esteem?
If you find that you rarely say nice things to yourself or, even worse, use negative language during self-talk, then it’s time for a change. Repeatedly saying negative things to yourself can result in low confidence, harmful behaviors and pessimistic thinking patterns. And that can easily translate into your professional life.
The way you speak to yourself matters, especially as a leader. Practicing positive self-talk has the power to boost your confidence, help you build a thriving relationship with others and allow you to develop empowering ideas about who you are. You are your biggest cheerleader. By not giving yourself the love you deserve, you’ll fail to feel fulfilled in your personal and professional life.
If you want to learn how to use positive self-talk to boost your self-esteem, here are a few simple ways to get started.
Listen To How You Speak To Yourself
Do you pay attention to how you talk to yourself? We all do it, but you may be speaking negatively to yourself without even realizing it. You especially won’t notice these negative patterns if you’re so used to them and haven’t given them much thought until now.
Your thoughts become your reality. Whatever you think about yourself or tell yourself ends up becoming the truth because only you are in charge of your life. When you speak ill will into your life, it can have major consequences.
For example, let’s say you have an important meeting coming up with investors. You want to make a good impression, but you keep putting yourself down and telling yourself you don’t have what they want. Before the meeting has even begun, you sell yourself short and therefore show less confidence.
Thinking like this gets you nowhere. It doesn’t motivate you or make you feel good — instead, it brings you down and makes you feel unworthy. To succeed in life, you need to stop worrying about the outcome and start believing in yourself. This all starts with your mind.
Do you catch yourself saying the words “always” or “never” when describing situations in your life? Using these absolutes can greatly affect the way you perceive yourself as well as the events that happen in your life.
By adopting an “all or nothing” mode of thinking, you limit your ability to see the good in things. For example, you might tell yourself that a friend of yours is never there for you because you’re upset. But when you dissect the relationship, you realize that isn’t true. Your negative thinking patterns prevent you from seeing the positives that relationship brings to your life.
The next time you want to see a situation in black and white, stop and truly think about it. It helps to write it down or keep a journal of events so you can break them down and get a more realistic viewpoint. Don’t tell yourself you’ll never get promoted to another branch because you aren’t deserving. Instead, recognize that you deserve the chance at a promotion just as much as the next person who applies.
The way you speak to yourself also affects how you view the world and the events that take place in your life. One could argue that being negative and focusing on what goes wrong is an easy route. Meanwhile, striving to find the good in things and people requires emotional intelligence and maturity.
If you have difficulty practicing gratitude, there are many ways you can start right now:
• Keep a gratitude journal. Every day, write down a few things you’re grateful for. It could be anything from a great cup of coffee to making a new friend.
• Reach out to a loved one and tell them you appreciate them. People need to hear the positive impact they have on your life, and it’ll make you feel good, too.
• Spend time around other positive people. They say you are the product of the five people you spend the most time with. If this is true, then you want to make sure those in your circle lift you up and encourage you to be the best.
• When you catch yourself lingering on a negative thought, stop yourself and come up with a positive point instead.
• Read books on how to practice gratitude and implement it in your day-to-day life. Diving deeper into the subject can help you better understand yourself.
Over To You
If you struggle with negative self-talk, you aren’t the only one. It can be challenging to change your ways of thinking and improve how you view yourself. But it’s absolutely necessary if you want to lead a more fulfilling, meaningful life. It’s crucial to think and speak highly of yourself because no one else will do it for you. How will you implement positive self-talk into your everyday life?