In a July 13 post, they acknowledged that the new pronouns were a change it might take some people time to get used to—and they wouldn’t take it personally if an errant “she” or “her” slipped out.
“If you misgender me—that’s okay,” Lovato wrote. “I accidentally misgender myself sometimes! It’s a huge transition to change the pronouns I’ve used for myself my entire life. And it’s difficult to remember sometimes!…As long as you keep trying to respect my truth, the shift will come naturally. I’m just grateful for your effort in trying to remember what means so much to my healing process.”
In a conversation just yesterday during The 19th Represents Summit, Lovato said, “For me, healing is the catalyst for everything. For every decision that I make in my life, I ask myself, is this going to help my healing process while I’m here on earth? Because I believe in reincarnation, I believe in the fact that we’re supposed to learn all of our lessons while we’re here, so we don’t have to do it again, so I always act out of what is going to be the most healing for me.”
When they got involved with Ehrich last spring, Lovato explained, “that was great, but that led me to ignoring all the parts of myself that I didn’t think were digestible for my partner at the time, who ended up becoming my fiancé. And I mean, in hindsight, the dissolvement of that relationship was actually probably the best thing that’s happened to me, because of what that led inside of myself…I was able to stand on my own two feet without needing someone else to validate me or to make me feel accepted. And when I said goodbye to that relationship, I also said goodbye to everything that was holding me back from being my most authentic self.
“And I really started to identify with close friends and family as non-binary towards the end of last year. And yeah, it was the dissolvement of all things that had held me back from identifying as the person I do today.”